Bhagavad Gita 1.37

Arjuna Vishada Yoga · English Translation

Bhagavad Gita 1.37 — "Therefore, we should not kill the sons of Dhritarashtra, our relatives; for how can we be happy by k"
Bhagavad Gita 1.37 — Arjuna Vishada Yoga
Sanskrit

तस्मान्नार्हा वयं हन्तुं धार्तराष्ट्रान्स्वबान्धवान् | स्वजनं हि कथं हत्वा सुखिनः स्याम माधव ||१-३७||

Transliteration

tasmānnārhā vayaṃ hantuṃ dhārtarāṣṭrānsvabāndhavān . svajanaṃ hi kathaṃ hatvā sukhinaḥ syāma mādhava ||1-37||

What Does This Verse Mean?

In this verse, Arjuna speaks to his friend and guide Krishna on the battlefield of Kurukshetra, expressing that killing their own relatives is unjustified because it leads to no true happiness. He questions how anyone can find joy after destroying their own family line. This moment marks the peak of Arjuna's emotional despair as he prioritizes human bonds over royal duty.

The Teaching Behind It

This verse belongs to the initial stage of karma yoga, specifically highlighting the conflict between pravritti (attachment to worldly relations) and nivritti (detachment). It introduces the concept that actions driven by personal attachment cannot lead to spiritual happiness or liberation. The Gita later resolves this tension not by denying family ties, but by redefining action as a duty performed without selfish desire.

Word by Word
तस्मात् therefore, न (are) not, अर्हाः justified, वयम् we, हन्तुम् to kill, धार्तराष्ट्रान् the sons of Dhritarashtra, स्वबान्धवान् our relatives, स्वजनम् kinsmen, हि indeed, कथम् how, हत्वा having killed, सुखिनः happy, स्याम may (we) be, माधव O Madhava. No Commentary.

Where This Happens

This verse occurs in Chapter 1 of the Bhagavad Gita during Arjuna Vishada Yoga (the yoga of dejection) just before he drops his bow and arrows. After seeing their grandsires, teachers, cousins, and friends arrayed on both sides ready to fight, Arjuna is overwhelmed by compassion and fear for the destruction of his lineage. He turns to Krishna, whom he addresses as Madhava (the son of Vasudeva), pleading that killing these kin would bring only sin, not victory.

Living It Out Today

Consider a manager who must decide whether to fire ten loyal employees during an economic downturn; while business logic suggests cutting costs for short-term profit, the manager realizes that destroying those relationships will lead to long-term guilt and loss of trust. This verse teaches us to pause before making decisions where professional gain conflicts with deep human values or family welfare. True success is not achieved if it requires sacrificing our moral integrity and emotional well-being.

Explained for Children

Imagine you are playing a game where your opponents are actually your best friends and cousins from school or home; it would feel terrible to try to 'win' by hurting them, right? That is exactly what Arjuna feels—he realizes that even if he wins the battle, being happy while destroying his own family is impossible. He asks Krishna how anyone can have a peaceful heart after causing such pain to people they love.

Daily Reflection

Today, pause to consider where you might be prioritizing a fleeting victory or personal gain over the harmony of your relationships. It is easy to forget that our deepest contentment comes from nurturing connection rather than overcoming others through force. When we choose compassion over conquest with family and friends, we align ourselves with a joy that no external success can provide.

A Practice for Today

Close your eyes and visualize the people closest to you as extensions of yourself, recognizing that their well-being is inseparable from your own peace. Ask gently: 'Can I find true happiness by harming those whom I love?' Let this question settle in your heart without judgment.

Key Teachings

  1. The Paradox of Self-Interest
    We often believe harming enemies or rivals brings us security, yet true happiness is impossible when it stems from the destruction of one's own kin. The verse reveals that violence against loved ones inevitably poisons the soul of the perpetrator.
  2. The Identity of Relational Self
    Our sense of self is deeply intertwined with our community; to destroy them is to fragment and weaken ourselves. This teaching challenges the ego's isolation by asserting that no individual can thrive while their network of love suffers.
  3. The Imperative of Ahimsa
    Non-violence (Ahimsa) begins not just as a rule, but as an emotional recognition that harming others is incompatible with inner peace. The speaker calls for the cessation of action when it contradicts the fundamental duty to preserve life and harmony.

Themes

Duty vs. EmotionFamily ValuesDetachmentCompassionMoral DilemmaSuffering of the Self

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  1. 2.47 — To understand how to act without attachment when facing difficult duties, moving from despair to purposeful action.
  2. 3.30 — To learn the practice of dedicating all actions and their fruits to the Divine, resolving the conflict between duty and emotion.
  3. 12.15 — To discover how Krishna defines the qualities of a devotee who brings peace to others by not causing distress or envy.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why does Arjuna call Krishna 'Madhava' in this verse?
Arjuna uses the name Madhava, meaning 'son of Vasudeva', to emphasize his personal devotion and friendship with Krishna rather than just addressing him as a charioteer or friend. This shift from formal duty to intimate relationship highlights that Arjuna is seeking guidance based on love before he can understand higher philosophical truths.
Does this verse mean we should never fight for justice?
No, the Gita does not advocate avoiding all conflict; instead, it teaches that one must act without attachment to personal relationships or fear of consequences. Arjuna's refusal here is based on confusion and emotional overwhelm (moha), which Krishna later corrects by explaining his specific duty as a warrior (kshatriya dharma) performed for the greater good.
How does this verse relate to the concept of happiness?
Arjuna argues that true happiness ('sukhinaḥ') cannot exist if it is built upon the destruction of loved ones. The Gita teaches later that temporary worldly joy derived from selfish actions eventually leads to sorrow, whereas lasting peace comes from fulfilling one's duty without personal gain or loss in mind.
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